{"id":4744,"date":"2021-01-26T01:19:38","date_gmt":"2021-01-26T01:19:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/billcorrigan.com\/updates\/?p=4744"},"modified":"2021-04-06T20:05:00","modified_gmt":"2021-04-06T20:05:00","slug":"expectations-are-premeditated-resentments","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/billcorrigan.com\/updates\/?p=4744","title":{"rendered":"Expectations are premeditated resentments."},"content":{"rendered":"

Expectations are premeditated resentments.<\/p>\n

Many people expect that others will act or respond a certain way to their wishes. Many don’t. And this causes frustration and resentment. But you have to ask yourself three things:<\/p>\n

1. “Is what I want reasonable?”;
\n2. “Did I clearly communicate and explain to that person what I want from them?”; and
\n3. “Did they agree to fulfill my wishes?”<\/p>\n

If you are frustrated with someone and you can answer “yes” to the three questions above then your frustration is legit and you have every right to call that person out…”Hey man, what’s the deal? I thought you agreed to my reasonable request I communicated to you?!” It’s on them.<\/p>\n

But if you answered “no” to any of the three then you only have yourself to blame for your frustration. It’s on you.<\/p>\n

Expectations are just premeditated resentments.<\/p>\n

\"Screams<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Expectations are premeditated resentments. Many people expect that others will act or respond a certain way to their wishes. Many don’t. And this causes frustration and resentment. But you have to ask yourself three things: 1. “Is what I want reasonable?”; 2. “Did I clearly communicate and explain to that person what I want from […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4745,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[570],"tags":[887,886,889,888],"class_list":["post-4744","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-marketing-performance-coaching","tag-expectations","tag-frustration","tag-premeditated","tag-resentment"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/billcorrigan.com\/updates\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4744","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/billcorrigan.com\/updates\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/billcorrigan.com\/updates\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/billcorrigan.com\/updates\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/billcorrigan.com\/updates\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4744"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/billcorrigan.com\/updates\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4744\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4747,"href":"https:\/\/billcorrigan.com\/updates\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4744\/revisions\/4747"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/billcorrigan.com\/updates\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4745"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/billcorrigan.com\/updates\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4744"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/billcorrigan.com\/updates\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4744"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/billcorrigan.com\/updates\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4744"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}